Guest post – Carolyn Ridder Aspenson: My Anti-Chick Lit Friend

Carolyn Ridder Aspenson has written an interesting guest blog for me today…

I have a friend, a best friend, really. Actually, she’s not my best friend (which is a bone of contention for her) because I consider her the sister I’ve never had. We’ve been friends since the day we met back in 1979. About a year after we met, I moved thirty minutes away and even without any modern technology, we stayed friends. In truth we have our parents to thank for that. They were willing to nurture the friendship and took the time to drive us back and forth to see each other. Had that not happened, I’m not sure we would have maintained the connection. Out of sight, out of mind, you know?

My friend and I are very different people. We don’t have a lot of the same hobbies, our politics are different and we don’t like the same movies. I’m surprised we’ve stayed close for so long!

One of my favorite ways to relax is to watch a chick flick. For me, it’s the ‘faster’ way to read – when I want to escape into another world but only have a few hours to do so. I do love to read but sometimes it’s just easier to watch a chick flick and have the beginning, middle and end all in a quick two hours.

My friend however is anti-chick lit/flick/anything with a romantic element where the guy is the perfect guy and you finish the book or leave the movie wishing he were yours. It depresses her. She doesn’t want to read or watch a movie about a woman who has some defining moment in her life and there’s a hot guy who adores her and they have their happily ever after.

Me? I love that stuff. It don’t think about the impossibility of it all, nor do I think of it in terms of my life. I just enjoy the moment and move on to laundry or toilet scrubbing.

I know that chick lit and chick flicks are fantasy. I know real men, for the most part, aren’t all romance all of the time and I know I’d go nuts if I met a guy like some of the male characters I’ve read and watched. Sometimes they’re a little too needy for me.

Reading a good chick lit book or watching a fun chick flick serves one purpose for me – to leave the day to day of my life and be the fly on the wall in another. I don’t carry it with me or wish my life were different. I simply enjoy the moment.

Yes, there are times when I read a book and think, “Okay, so what happened next?” And there are times when I watch a movie and wish it hadn’t ended. I consider that to be a really great book and a well-done movie when I’m left feeling that way.

My friend is in a strong, happy relationship now. I wonder if that impacts how she feels about chick lit and chick flicks?  I may ask her to come by and watch “The Holiday” and see what she says.

Carolyn Ridder Aspenson is the author of Unfinished Business An Angela Panther Novel.

Purchase her book on Amazon US, Barnes and Noble.

Her second in the series, Unbreakable Bonds An Angela Panther Novel is due out in November, 2013.

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