Continuing on with my studies in the art of being happy:
If I get up in the morning, think negative thoughts, and laze about, doing nothing… that doesn’t turn into a great day. But if I get up feeling excited about the day will bring, and get a sense of either pleasure or achievement (or preferably both!) from that day, it tends to be a fantastic one.
Sounds obvious, right?
Yes. But when you feel tired, or sad, lonely, down or depressed, you don’t FEEL like doing anything. You just want to stay in your pyjamas, eating junk, and watching TV. Sometimes you don’t even want to do that much.
It’s okay to have a day like this now and then. But never let it become a habit.
I’ve been there… I got so depressed I wished I could just close my eyes and never wake up. I will never feel that way again. I’ve learned how to be happy. I just hope I can somehow share these learnings to help others.
So, here’s my first and most basic tip:
Alter your behaviour and don’t think about how you feel.
Just do it.
Get up, and do things that will give you a sense of pleasure, or a sense of achievement.
Make a list of all the fun things you want to do, and all the things you want to achieve. Then write out a plan, so that you balance out the fun and the achievements throughout the weeks and months ahead.
Some ideas to add to your list:
- That hobby you used to love, or always wanted to take up: make time and do it.
- Regularly go somewhere you’ve never been before.
- Find concerts, theatre, or comedy gigs – often they don’t cost much. Get out.
- Seek out your favourite friends and family, and arrange to get together.
- Go to new places regularly.
- All those chores – if you only do one productive job a day, at least you’ll feel like achieved something.
- Exercise: find something you enjoy.
- Plan a holiday; escape.
- Think about what else you’ve always wanted to do, learn about or achieve.